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So you have just met someone. Appearance wise they seem perfect. Fun to be around, interesting, Attractive, % minutes in everything green go. Beautiful face, Poifect body. Suddenly up comes to lips... cigarette,

Deal breaker? Game over? or can you adapt?

Me, no, cant adapt. Just cant do it.

Am I an pwick?

For me personally, it would. I value overall health. Somebody smoking says "I don't give a rat
about my health".

I can adapt.

sowwy, but I can't take the smell. And honestly when I am in a chariot and another pull up beside me and I look over and see an attractive lady and she pulls a tobacco stick up to her lips, its juts like..blechhhhh, I know I'm a horrible person

No, you're not a horrible person. Cigarette smoke smells awful and it gets into your clothes and makes them smell and makes you cough and your eyes burn. My father smoked and the fresh air in the house after he quit was so wonderful.

I smoke, am female, & am trying to quit. However I'd rather quit for myself, than because someone takes a fit about it. Smoking is my last bad habit. I know that it's bad. It does remind me of my family (my fav. relatives all smoked & most lived into their 80's) & my husband smoked. He died of cancer but it was not smoking related. Smoking probably has a lot of happy memories, & a comfort factor to it, which makes it even harder to stop.

I have learned to be flexible as I have gotten older and overlook many things. Smoking is NOT one of those things. I will never date a smoker, period end of story and I am instantly turned off when I see an attractive girl light up. Even someone who smoked just one cigarette a week I would never consider under any circumstances.

Would move on immediately. I take reasonable care of myself and pay attention to what I put in my body, someone who doesn't is highly repelling.

I smoke weed most days and I'm probably fitter than most people on this forum.

I do 3-4 hours cycling every other day at 170-190BPM
clothes smelling is also BS My ex wife has no idea I started smoking again

If I get in another relationship and they don't smoke weed then I'll quit I've done it before and I could do it again.
I watched my son for two full days the other week and didn't have a smoke once and it didn't effect my mood even though I would have liked to smoke it does not have control over me.

I can't stand smoke, so smoking is a no for me. I also lost my grandpa to smoking, I don't want to grow attached to a lady just to lose her to it too. The smell is pretty bad too. It just isn't something that can be ignored for me.

Do you live with her? Do you sleep in the same bed or do intimate things that couples often do together still? Because that's the kind of thing this topic is about - being in an active relationship where you would (probably) be in frequent close-proximity where smell could be a persistent and intolerable issue.

Sure, for someone like that, I'd put up with their smoking.

Why would I need to?
someone said it makes clothes smell when it clearly doesn't.
Not washing your clothes makes them smell

If someone smoking is the last of your worries then I'd get over it pretty quickly if I were you.

Someone being ASD is likely far less attractive to an NT than someone who smokes

I literally just explained why.

I have not smoked in 5 days!!
I got quite sick over the last few weeks with a lower respiratory virus, & clearing up the moldy, dog poopy leaves & debris out of the back yard.
I think i can quit this time for good!!

I understand that some people simply can't be around the smell of smoke. I wish they could understand that I can't be around anything with any kind of flowery fragrance, including perfumes, scented lotions, scented deodorant, clothes that have been washed with scented detergent and/or fabric softener, bodies/hair that have been washed with strong-smelling soaps. The main reason I continue to smoke is to keep my scent receptors de-sensitized to all these types of fragrances so that I can continue to work in a building with 60 other people, most of who use one or more of the above products.

When those of us with sensory overload issues get to have a say in what other people smell like, then I might be able to quit smoking!