Dating with AS--- advice?

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A few weeks ago I exchanged numbers with a girl I'm interested in. She's a couple years older than me, but she's smart and attractive, and I found out that she has Aspergers Syndrome, like me. We texted a few times, and I asked her out a few weeks ago, but we stopped texting. We just started texting again, and I'm going to see her in a few days. Im very nervous, we both have social anxiety. I never asked someone out or went on a date before. I'm very comfortable talking with her, and I am worried about messing things up.

Does anyone here have any advice?

You've spoken before.

Just talk about what you've been talking about previously.

She's smart and attractive.
The important things is to remember you're smart and attractive too.
Simply believe it, it makes everything easier.

I've talked to a few neurotypicals about this kind of thing. I'm told that everyone feels anxious about meeting with someone they're attracted to. Some just hide it better.

On the rare occasions I can get a girl to go out with me, I'm also super nervous. I've learned to enjoy the anxiety, though, if that makes any sense. Like going on a roller coaster; it wouldn't be as fun if it wasn't a little intimidating.

Don't try too hard, just try to be yourself around her. Don't pretend to be something you aren't. Good luck!