Being "Straightqueer"
LostWayfinder
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: 27 Jul 2014
Age: 39
Gender: Male
Posts: 33
Location: St. Louis, Missouri
I am a heterosexual, cissexual male. I guess that makes me straight. Problem: The usual straight courtship model blows right past me. It seems contrived, unevolved, and savage. Everyone is in a state of false consciousness, pursuing the hottest or richest bachelor, traiting each other like crap, and throwing up sundry ambiguous rules that the neurodiverse are not clued in on. I also hate inequality and injustice in all its forms so I am an LGBTQIA ally.
Performing heterosexuality outside the standard, capitalist, heteronormative model needs a word: straightqueer.
Very true. When both male and female partners of the "usual straight courtship model" often end up using the logical fallacy of appealing to gender roles (if it isn't a listed fallacy, it should be), why bother with the pretense of one?
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Performing heterosexuality outside the standard, capitalist, heteronormative model needs a word: straightqueer.
I can strongly relate to you. I'm bisexual and prefer the opposite sex more.
I might act very masculine and straight (people have no clue/idea about my bisexualness) but the reality is I absolutely despise the gender roles/rules society has put into place just because I'm male.
Things are worst when you are in your 20s. People always have one-night stands and get "wasted"; full of drugs or alcohol.
Heterosexual NT's just fail to value relationships for what they are but also social dating for how it should be.
I am curious though in what you mean when you say "straight courtship model"? What exaclty are you trying to say?
LostWayfinder
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: 27 Jul 2014
Age: 39
Gender: Male
Posts: 33
Location: St. Louis, Missouri
I mean women go for the "alpha" as*hole, send ambiguous nonverbal signals, and so on. Men must make the first approach and engage in witty banter. This whole process disfavors the neurodiverse.