Do NT's really love talking about themselves?

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I've often heard that "people love talking about themselves" ...I wonder if this is in regards to nt's only?

...personally I hate talking about myself. What about you?

I have a hard time talking about myself but I think the "liking" to talk about oneself is an individual/personality thing, not an AS or NT thing.

The best I can tell, yes.
I think it also includes talking about other people and in comparative terms to oneself.
I would say it has to do with obsession with social status and hierarchy.

Obviously this isn't a rule or anything like that.
It's just that it seems that generally ASD/aspie like to talk more about information separate from identity.
Obviously sometimes the information can be directly linked to oneself, as in the conversations here about autism and things we observe about ourselves. I just think the main interest lies in the subject material information rather than what it means to individual identity.

I agree with this. I tend to talk about myself a lot and things I own. I don't think it's just an NT thing.

Not myself, specifically, but I suppose it also applies to dominating a conversation. It can be annoying to not have a chance to share your opinions or to have them ignored.

Oh yes I think people generally do. Both directly ("I" statements) and more commonly indirectly, by sharing their experiences and ideas. And a lot of people do what I call "externalising" where they say something that seems to be about something else but is really more about themselves, e.g. "that woman is attractive" or "jobseekers are all scroungers."

I think NTs in general would be more inclined to speak about themselves because they have more reward for doing so. Not every NT is like that and not every person with AS doesn't like to talk about themselves.

It depends. It's mostly boring types who love to wax and wane about themselves because they want to seem personable and worth knowing. But I like to be interviewed about stuff, so I guess I fit in that category, huh? Heh!

Same here. I'm the most boring person I know and I love talking about myself. I usually stop myself though because I don't want people to realize how self-centred I am.

NTs aren't the only ones who like talking about themselves. I don't do it on purpose but when I talk to people I often have a tendency to "steer the conversation towards myself" and start talking about things that are on my mind, my interests etc. It makes me feel a bit selfish sometimes but yeah, I'm not doing it on purpose. It's just that my thoughts are important to me, I'm stuck in my head and I fail to pay others as much attention as I probably should.

Not only NTs, most people like talking about themselves.

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Exactly; its not limited to aspies. I like talking about myself if I have something to say about the subject. Given a freeform topic it may be harder to communicate something substantial versus a topic that I'm more well versed in.

I dunno. I'm NT and yes, I do like talking about myself. But I also like hearing about other people and enjoy reciprocity in a conversation -exchange of anecdotes - asking questions, etc.

My AS-likely spouse talks not so much about himself and say his feelings, but about his interests. He monologues and monopolises conversational space. I've had to put some conversational topics off limit - e.g. dungeons and dragons because it bores me to tears and his theories on race and intelligence because it icks me out.