Classmates call me weird, crazy... PLEASE HELP!

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22 Oct 2014, 4:20 pm

In school, many times I do things my classmates consider "weird" and I know I do weird things sometimes but it really bothers me when people call me "weird" or that I am "crazy" out loud and I find more and more classmates do that. This makes me feel very sad and have a very low self esteem because I want people to realize that there are people who are like me and need to be accepted.

How can I deal with this problem? I do not know how to react or do when my classmates make this sort of statements, they do it almost every day and is making me feel depressed. :(

Have you ever experienced something like this? I really need some good counsel from you guys.

Thanks a lot.



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22 Oct 2014, 5:23 pm

I bet you EVERYBODY in this Forum has experienced what you're experiencing.

I certainly did.

You just have to be confident in yourself and your abilities. You have to treat people like you want to be treated. I would assume you're a high school student, right? High school is tough for every kid, especially tough for people on the Spectrum.

Truthfully, everybody is "weird" in their own way. Especially the people who call others "weird." I'm sure you could find something "weird" about each and every one of those kids.

I would make sure I get decent grades first. And get into college/university. Once you do that, you'll be more okay than if you don't. That's for sure.



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22 Oct 2014, 5:31 pm

I am 40 now and yes I have experienced this and much worse.

There is no turning around your situation with these people.

If it becomes unbearable get your self out of the situation.

Don't let youself sink into despair like I did.

If you can stick it I promise this part of your life does end.



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22 Oct 2014, 5:32 pm

I am 40 now and yes I have experienced this and much worse.

There is no turning around your situation with these people.

If it becomes unbearable get your self out of the situation.

Don't let youself sink into despair like I did.

If you can stick it I promise this part of your life does end.



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22 Oct 2014, 7:50 pm

If you wanna be really bold, start pointing out things odd about them out loud and ask them how they like it.



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22 Oct 2014, 9:01 pm

what I eventually found out for myself, was that I was surrounded by furless upright two-legged barking dogs, that I avoided just as one would avoid uncurbed slavering dogs.



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22 Oct 2014, 10:07 pm

better to be weird than to be a drone.



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22 Oct 2014, 10:12 pm

Take it as a compliment and don't mind their words.
They're asinine conformists.



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22 Oct 2014, 10:45 pm

I experienced the same thing when I was in primary school and I was called Mental case because I didn't conform.
Remember just be yourself and try not to let them hurt you,
You probably can do things that they can't do.



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22 Oct 2014, 10:59 pm

www.reddit.com/r/howtonotgiveafuck

Seriously though, your (our) generation is mostly made up of a bunch of morons. What they think doesn't matter that much currently, and won't matter at all when you're an adult. Be yourself.


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23 Oct 2014, 12:54 am

Indeed, we all have probably experienced this. I am a teacher of high school students, in addition to having been bullied and set up throughout school. I know how you feel, and it sucks. I am sorry you are feeling this way. My advice would be to tell adults who care as often as it happens. I would also advise you to document what they say, who says it, where they said it, when they said it, and keep a record. Do not share this with peers, but it should be reported to a responsible adult. If that adult does not address the issue, take it to the next level up. Someone in the district office will care. Especially if you have a documented record and can demonstrate you have tried to resolve the problem at the school level. I know that doesn't help you feel better now, but it may ion the long run.

For now, look for the kids who are NOT doing these things; they are possible friends. Join a club or get involved with an interest at school. Try to remember the people who make fun are actually insecure jerks, who are scared of what they do not understand. I am sure you are great person, and I know you deserve not to be made fun of. If you REALLY want to make a point that will be heard, the next time it happens, preferably AFTER you have told the teacher about it, get up, stand tall, and say, "I am leaving until you can provide a safe environment for me to work in." And ignore the snickers and comments completely. The more they see that their behavior does NOT make you react to them, the less fun they will have doing so. And then leave, no matter what they do or say back. GO straight to the office and report the incident in detail, immediately. And keep doing this until they take the issue seriously and DO NOT let them tell you it's in your head, that all kids are going through this, that it will pass, that it is the way things are, etc.; none of these responses do anything except pass the responsibility back on to you and make you deal with it because they don't want to. Also, beware of them pretending to take it seriously, then doing nothing much. DO NOT be afraid to follow up a couple of days later to ask what was done. If no satisfaction, refer to earlier suggestion of going to the next level. You do not have to accept this behavior.

Above all else, remember you don't deserve to be disrespected and to feel less than others.



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23 Oct 2014, 4:13 am

I experience the same thing everyday at school and I don't know how to stop it too
I get called crazy, stupid, weird, ret*d, annoying
I ignore my classmates existence and never interact with them or act intrested so now they call me those names lesser but I still get the vibes of them looking down upon me



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23 Oct 2014, 5:42 am

Hey thanks for the advice, that is appreciated. :) I will just try to ignore these morons at school and see if it works this time since it did not work well before.



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23 Oct 2014, 6:05 am

Fel14 wrote:
Hey thanks for the advice, that is appreciated. :) I will just try to ignore these morons at school and see if it works this time since it did not work well before.


It's all you really can do. Anything that does not meet the societal standard of "normal" is always dubbed weird & crazy/creepy (depending on gender, usually) Your best bet is not only to ignore it, but stick with the people who accept you or embrace you for those traits. Not everybody is going to like you, and you don't have to like those people either. Contrary to what you're led to believe, there is so much more to life than fitting in and being normal.


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23 Oct 2014, 6:32 am

Yeah, kids used to say I wasn't human.
Try joining a club for your special interest, if there is one. The Robotics club (or any less mainstream club) doesn't judge, because everyone there is at least as much of a nerd/weird person/bullying victim as you are, plus you have common ground and something to do if you don't want to talk.



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23 Oct 2014, 2:38 pm

Get used to that vibe, kid. I still experience it, as do probably the majority of people here, or better. If it is causing you this kind of anguish, I repeat my advice to document it all. And share it with an adult; someone important needs to be getting this info from you on a weekly basis. You can try to ignore it, but you shouldn't have to, and it only kind of works sometimes anyway. Start doing something you like. You can even suggest a club if your school doesn't offer anything you are interested in. The only other solution I can think of is become a super villain, but that involves a lot of risky, illegal activity so I wouldn't really recommend it. Personally, being 43 and a child of the 80's, I fantasized about calling the A-Team, but of course I did not know how. For a good schlocky fun outlet, you should watch those old episodes though; they all feature someone strong arming or bullying some weaker party, and the A-Team always regulates on the offenders in a really awesome (and frankly implausible) way. For fun only. If interested.