I would rather be Asperger...

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than the ret*d I actually am. If I were autistic I could at least seek friendship with peers but as a ret*d I have no one to turn to.
I got an high score at Aspie quiz but that's because I'm socially ret*d and stupid in general.

Being around people is worse than hell and that's not going to change any soon.

When I asked myself what was the point of this thread it was too late. It also sounds unpolite but I didn't mean it to be. Dear friends the situation might be worse than expected.

My autism makes me completely withdrawn from others and unable to interact with them. Autism is often all about being socially ret*d and stupid. My performance IQ is really low because of my autism. Sometimes I feel like such and idiot and get angry with myself. But I know it's not my fault. I didn't make myself.

I don't know, Asperger people don't understand social norms I think, I feel I'm too ret*d to cope with them but I seem to understand them somehow.
Maybe I should give up and just live in my room but I'd still have to make a living and I don't know.

Ezra, having read your posts, I can say without a doubt that you are undeniably smart. The only dumb statement you made is saying you sometimes feel like an idiot(you aren't). You really are smart and anyone here would say the same as well.

While you may have trouble communicating it verbally, given a keyboard you show that you're are as smart as any NT. Being in a mainstream school, I can say that most of the people there are the idiots of the world who have no critical thinking skills and cannot possibly make an informed decision on anything. You have, with your posts, done more to highlight the intelligence of those with classic autism than any news story. Whenever I here of someone saying something with the deficits of those with LFA I cite you as an example of the vast intellect hidden by poor communication. You are far from stupid and are an example to us all!

Chill on the use of the word "ret*d", buddy. Especially on a forum dedicated to people with mental disorders. You having bad social skills doesn't mean you have aspergers in the same way that being sad doesn't mean you're depressed.
I'm pretty sure that striving to have mental disorders is a mental disorder in itself.

In fact I probably don't have asperger I'm just ret*d. I came here not to say that aspergers are ret*d but because I didn't know where to go at all, this was like last resort.
I'm not here because I think that you're ret*ds don't think like that please, but I sure am, don't mean to offend you but socially we might share something.

Intelligence is abstract, depends on what you are measuring. Social skills, math, language, art... there are hundreds of things a human can do, and not two can do the same. I've also come to the realization the only truly "smart" person is the one that can find some satisfaction and purpose in their life, no matter how small. You cannot be happy all the time, same as you cannot always be right. And that is ok.

Dear Nyctalope.
Who called you a ret*d in the first place?
You say, you´re PROBABLY not an aspie - but you are clearly looking for some reason, why you don´t seem to thrive and function in the world as, of course, you would like to.

Perhaps you need help to figure out how to get on in your life.
Could you, by any means, seek support to have an evaluation? Just to rule out - or not.
Have you tried a psychologist with expertise in these matters?

You certainly need to find a more positive self-understanding - self-appreciation.
Perhaps you need some kind of a coach/mentor to help you over this and find your purpose in life.

And - you have every right to ask in here.
You are welcome.

I feel the exact same way. I understand everything about the social stuff but I just can't do it myself. Or I can but its exhausting - I can imitate it really well in short spurts.

And what if you suck at all of those things? Memorizarion and studying are kind of ok but that's it for me, I'm even slower than the average.
I agree about the second part, the problem here is that I like languages but except words memorization I'm terrible at it, I speak awfully.


Thank you very much for your kind words.
Yes I said "probably" but the likelihood I'm not is quite high. Maybe I will eventually seek support for an evaluation if I fail at everything but I also think I may be diagnosed with Asperger without actually being one because of my (un)social attitude and my incompetence with people.
Not sure if I'll though because I don't want my parents to know and I doubt you can seek a professional evaluation for Asperger alone.

So what if you suck? Do you enjoy doing it? That's enough. True, in the real world you also need to find something that pays the bills, but you get my point. Just do your thing, don't mind the others or your own limits too much.