Asexual/aromantic, autistic, or both?

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Biemi
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06 Mar 2015, 7:18 am

Hello :)

I am very particular about people touching me. IDK if it's because I've always been that way (probably) or has something to do with quite physical bullying that went on most of my childhood. Either way, I have never enjoyed kissing, groping, or sex, but I will tolerate hugs and whatnot from friends and family as long as I know them well and see the hug coming. However I haven't done romantic contact with people I am attracted to. My dating experience has been with guys I wasn't in love with or whatever because dating is what I saw everyone do and I wanted to be like everyone else.

But I haven't been attracted to people either. Like, I can get crazily obsessed with people (only guys), but then have no interest in dating, kissing and what not, nor romantic talk. I'd rather be *really* close friends with them. Tbh I'm pretty particular about meeting people too, and there's a whole load of rules to go with that, which means the datable pool of guys in my life is very small. Plus I do not find people attractive. They all look the same.

It looks like having a boyfriend would be really fun, but I don't enjoy touching and I still haven't had a crush on someone. I have only been recently diagnosed, and don't really know many other ASD people my age, so IDK if this is an autistic thing or something else... What do you guys think...



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06 Mar 2015, 8:17 am

Not true for all people with Autism. We can be all kinds.

Some might be completly obsessed with romance and physical attraction to others, or some might be completely aromantic/asexual.

The touching thing though is a very common aspie trait, many of us do not like being touched because we have sensitive feeling which means the lightest touches might make us feel overwhelmed...



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07 Mar 2015, 6:32 pm

A know a higher percentage of people on the spectrum are asexual than the general population, but that certainly isn't true for all of us. I wondered if I was asexual when I was younger, but once I started dating, I realized that I was the complete opposite of asexual. Seeing that you have dated and don't enjoy touch, then you are likely asexual but this isn't necessarily related to Autism.



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07 Mar 2015, 7:30 pm

Biemi wrote:
Like, I can get crazily obsessed with people (only guys), but then have no interest in dating, kissing and what not, nor romantic talk. I'd rather be *really* close friends with them.


That does sound like the asexual, neurodiverse, relationship profile. Having a crush and being obsessed are very similar things.