Can aspie guys be a little bit more intimidating?!
The typical AS blank stare can also be kind of intimidating. Smiling might help.
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Authentic cadence: V-I
Plagal cadence: IV-I
Deceptive cadence: V- ANYTHING BUT I ! !! !
Beethoven cadence: V-I-V-I-V-V-V-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I
-I-I-I-I-I-I-I-I! I! I! I I I
Definitely not hostile, usually other's first impression of me is just "weird" because of how much anxiety I get when meeting someone new for the first time.
I guess it's different if you're a bigger lad, someone might be threatened.
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It depends on the guy. I know I can be, but I'm a pretty big guy (6'3", ~220 pounds). That being said, I've met guys on the spectrum who are larger than I am and would intimidate absolutely no one. So I guess it has to do with how introverted you are, as well (if that makes sense).
I learned later in life that although I had a friendly and respectful demeanor, some saw me as intimidating. But let me explain two ways this has worked in my life. Throughout my school years, I was usually the tallest in my class. In the fifth grade I was 5'7" and in my 7th grade year I was 6'1". But I wasn't large. At 6'1" I weighed 140 lbs when I entered high school. Some of the students may have seen me physically intimidating, but I was a pleasant student and I hope they saw me as nice.
Now this second reason is where the intimidation factor came in. I became fascinated with bowling in my early middle school years. Bowling alleys thrilled me to no end. I loved the mechanics and sport itself. I watched the Pro Bowlers Tour every chance I had. Those pro bowlers were almost like family to me. So, as this was an intense interest, I got good at it. In fact, the first year I bowled on a youth league, I maintained the high average, high game, and high series. Throughout all of my years bowling in school leagues through my graduation, I maintained those records. I later learned that other bowlers were intimidated by me. When I bowled, I was usually so absorbed in the interest of bowling that I may have seemed distant from the other competitors.
The same became true in band. I loved the trombone and became the best in my school at it. I turned professional by the time I was in 9th grade. I learned that some of the older high school trombonists were intimidated by me.
But I was nice. I never meant to intimidate. But I add my story because it adds variety to the ways in which intimidation can work.
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Ironically, my wife sometimes thinks I give off a "rough" air even though I'm 5 foot 5 and a nerdy-clumsy type.
^^^ yah - me too.
I've been told I can come on pretty strong right out of the gate. Been told I have the subtlety of a freight train sometimes. I try to watch myself for it now.
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Now this second reason is where the intimidation factor came in. I became fascinated with bowling in my early middle school years. Bowling alleys thrilled me to no end. I loved the mechanics and sport itself. I watched the Pro Bowlers Tour every chance I had. Those pro bowlers were almost like family to me. So, as this was an intense interest, I got good at it. In fact, the first year I bowled on a youth league, I maintained the high average, high game, and high series. Throughout all of my years bowling in school leagues through my graduation, I maintained those records. I later learned that other bowlers were intimidated by me. When I bowled, I was usually so absorbed in the interest of bowling that I may have seemed distant from the other competitors.
The same became true in band. I loved the trombone and became the best in my school at it. I turned professional by the time I was in 9th grade. I learned that some of the older high school trombonists were intimidated by me.
But I was nice. I never meant to intimidate. But I add my story because it adds variety to the ways in which intimidation can work.
Have you seen the movie Kingpin?
Now this second reason is where the intimidation factor came in. I became fascinated with bowling in my early middle school years. Bowling alleys thrilled me to no end. I loved the mechanics and sport itself. I watched the Pro Bowlers Tour every chance I had. Those pro bowlers were almost like family to me. So, as this was an intense interest, I got good at it. In fact, the first year I bowled on a youth league, I maintained the high average, high game, and high series. Throughout all of my years bowling in school leagues through my graduation, I maintained those records. I later learned that other bowlers were intimidated by me. When I bowled, I was usually so absorbed in the interest of bowling that I may have seemed distant from the other competitors.
The same became true in band. I loved the trombone and became the best in my school at it. I turned professional by the time I was in 9th grade. I learned that some of the older high school trombonists were intimidated by me.
But I was nice. I never meant to intimidate. But I add my story because it adds variety to the ways in which intimidation can work.
Have you seen the movie Kingpin?
Hey Glider,
Your post resonated with me.
I was really into the Pro Bowler's tour, Too. Chris Schenkel was a good announcer; but I liked Nelson Burton Jr. (a professional bowler, too) better.
I sucked at bowling, though, even though I used to go bowling once a week with my father. I had a 74 average at age 12. By 15, I probably had a 120-130 average--but never more than that.
My all-time favorite bowler was Mark Roth. He had a stroke a couple of years ago. I'm not sure how he's doing now. I also liked Johnny Petraglia and Dick Weber. Later bowlers who I like include Marshal Holman, Walter Ray Williams Jr., some Venezuelan guy name Amleto something or another, and Pete Weber.
If they had the PBA on Channel 7 these days, I'd still watch it. Especially if they conduct the show in bowling alleys, rather than outdoors.
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