Does she suspect I have Asperger's

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I've been getting to know someone. We mainly play and write music together. I was talking about my lack of a love life and she mentioned a guy. She said that he has Asperger's. Is that a sign she suspects I have it or did she just randomly mention it?

I suppose it depends on how much time you've spent with this individual, and how good a job you feel you've done of hiding your traits. I'd assume she just mentioned it because it's an interesting fact about someone she knows. That said, she seems like a good person to open up to about your diagnosis, since she seems to know at least a little about what it entails. Depending on how severe your condition is, and how much time you plan on spending with this person in the future, it could be difficult to hide it from her forever.

If that's the case, it's unlikely she suspects anything. In my experience, either your traits have to be obvious, or the other person has to be quite knowledgeable about ASDs (e.g a parent of an autistic child or professional of sorts). If she's noticed anything, she probably just thinks you're on the quirky side. Am I correct in assuming you don't have an official diagnosis?

The way you stated it DevilKisses, I'm assuming your friend's comment came up in random conversation, so I wouldn't give it a second thought, unless your friend mentions it again and even then I wouldn't say anything to her.

Have you written any songs?

I'd like to see one you wrote.

I'm assuming she knows or can tell you are in some way on the spectrum. I know it's pretty discouraging when you try so hard to hide your diagnosis from someone just to realize that the whole time, they where hiding the fact that they knew all along. I've had people call me out in the same way before. She's probably testing you aswell, how did you react when she mentioned the guy with Aspergers? That was probably part of the test mate...

My first thought is that yes she does. I use this as a tactic to get people to open up to me about being on the spectrum. I think I have pretty good ausdar (lol), but that's not something you'd want to directly ask someone. It's like asking someone if they're gay. It's not your business, you know? Why would someone try to find out? For me, personally, I'm trying to make professional contacts and ask people's opinions about my research. For another person, they might just be trying to get to know you.

BUT...now that I'm thinking about it...I have happened to have a lot of autistic friends throughout my life, way before I knew what autism was. People tell me I have a really expressive face, and I also have a habit of talking a little too matter of fact. Maybe that makes me get along better with autistic people as opposed to non-autistic ones. Maybe your friend is like that and it's just a coincidence that her other friend is an aspie.