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Money has been getting tight since I missed so much work and am back on disability.

How have others handled this situation?

Money is also tight for me right now. It grates on my nerves sometimes. I can't wait until my boss is back at work. He can give me the $50 for the boxes that I've filled with various picked vegetables. The guy who's taking over for my boss right now gives me $10s for the 2 boxes I fill each day and I'm planning on putting those in the bank when I have a chance. I'm also going to be working on the farm an extra day a week. It's the thought of what's going to happen after September that scares me.

What happens after september?

I know financials can be really hard.
My dad used to have a company for 17 years before going bankrupt. When it happened i promised my parents that i will not let them down. They have been good all my life and now it was time to return the favor.


After we lost of house and started renting one, it was really hard to keep up with paying my parents bills and get food on the table.

My dad was unemployed due to severe medical problems and my mom only Works parttime, no other contract was available for her. My Brother has a minimal social security income due to his autism so i was the only one who was able to pay for anything extra

I have deleted plenty of people out of my life who tried to convince me to move out and that my parents situation was not my problem.

I ended up paying about 500 euro's a month just for the cost of living there and even then i would still need to pay 200 euro a month sometime to pay a medical bill or fill up the refrigerator.

I have seen the horrors of what financial stress can do to a family. It sucks to know that the real financial crisis has yet to begin

After 3 years we were out of debt but my parents still cannot get any loans for another 5 years thereafter.

Man, the financial stress and my parents argueing gave me alot of IBS and back spasms..

Here in the United States, I'm very familiar with Walmart's price-matching policy. You bring in a current printed advertised price for a local competitor and Walmart will match that price. It can't be merely a percentage off. It has to be an actual item for an actual dollar amount.

Now, some managers really don't like this policy and will kind of edge-cheat on it. Other managers play it straight.

My mum is getting me some food tomorrow.

my wife is on disability. i applied but got told that i'm not disabled, i "merely experience discomfort". and of course a month's worth of food stamps only last about 2.5 weeks. so yah, things are tight here too. not sure how we're going to make it through, but i'm going to make one more shot at the disability thing - so been letting my doctor know about some of the stuff i never bothered to tell her, chronic stuff that really isn't treatable so i never bothered complaining about, and i'm trying to get re-diagnosed AS since my first diagnosis was not/is not available for the disability people, but the shrink i got sent to is pretty clueless (i'm his 1st ever experience with autism/asperger's) and he thinks i've got depression so i'm going to have to clue him in tomorrow. if it doesn't work out, then in another year and a half i can "retire early" (after 10 yr without work LOL) - won't be as much as disability pays, but will be something.

if we can survive that long.

how am i handling it? well, it is getting hard to convince myself that what i experience is reality.......

So you're experiencing derealization?

Seems like a bad dream huh?

Living on footstamps must be horrible!
What do you mean by if we can survive that long

kinda like a dream i guess, at times it seems like there no way what i experience could possibly be real. and when i'm in meltdown, often everything is non-sequitur.

the food stamps (actually a plastic swipe-card these days) isn't that bad - certainly better than nothing - except for the insufficient amount people get (thanks, congress! what a bunch of useless dicks they are). we live in the poorest county in the state, so there's no local stigma about being on public assistance at all.

what i mean about surviving:
a small inheritance when my mom passed bought our property, which was to be our retirement place. loss of jobs and loss of house brought us here early, age 55, with basically nothing. started off living in a tent, and through the first summer we built a temporary structure to live in until we could get a real house built. figured it would last about 3yr before starting to decompose, which proved about right.

my wife found a job for a while, but it finished her off physically, and finally got on disability. then a couple years ago when we finally had some income stability, and plans to start on the house, my gall bladder suddenly exploded and recovery from the surgery was slow and put me out of action for 2yr. feeling better and more able now, so of course i had a hernia pop up recently.... again, not conducive to cutting trees and turning them into a house. so we will still be in our decomposing little tarp-walled shack for at least one more winter. provided that it doesn't fall in on top of us.

we are, however, trying to arrange some work weekends for people to come help building next year, workshop-style.

I'll have to recycle and deal with the low-lifes at the bottle depot full time, again. I've had a run in with a scrawny street man who thinks he can call me a word I don't like and who thinks he can waste me because he has a penis and balls. As far as I'm concerned, I'm also a man.