Anyone never had desire for children?

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Has anyone on here, never wanted kids? I've never in all my life had any desire to reproduce. I know that is very very strange to people when I tell them that and I'm thinking about whether it's my neurology or my childhood. I had a terrible childhood, with parents who drank constantly and was pretty much an orphan at the age of 7... I was changing my sisters diapers at age 5 and was basically expected to raise my younger siblings. Now that I'm engaged, I'm constantly asked when my fiance and I will have our own children (he has two from a previous marriage). I always say never (because we already have two) and because I've never ever wanted any 'of my own.' I've never felt that maternal need to raise kids and I've never felt that compulsion to pass on my genes to the next generation. Honestly, taking care of screaming infants and back talking children sounds like a nightmare to me. Am I completely alone in this?

For the most part, I had a great childhood and my mother is very loving.
But I have never wanted children. I'm not interested in anything concerning. I don't want sex, pregnancy, giving birth, breast feed, change diapers, wipe behinds and snot, throw birthday parties, teach a child morals and be stuck with child/ren all day every day, day in and day out. I crave freedom too much. I'm not willing to put most of my life on hold for about 20 years.

I wish I had siblings though, because it's killing me that the family dies with me! I wish there was someone to pass on the torch.
I only see two reasons to have children: a) to have someone to pass memories and items on to, and b) to have a reason to go on once first degree relatives are no more. (well, your children would become first degree rels, but you know what I mean).

Nyx, I don't think it's so uncommon to not want children today. There are adults and couples who are willingly childless.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Childfree

I never wanted kids. I didn't even like kids when I was a kid.

I wouldn't say that I've never had any desire for children...but pretty close to never. I could see myself maybe having stepchildren if they are already past the age of 12 or so, but I definitely wouldn't want to raise a child from infancy. It would be too demanding on me to pay that much attention to another human being and have them completely dependent on me.

I had a horrible childhood, and that definitely contributes to my feelings about it, but I really don't think it would make much difference if I had an idyllic, wonderful childhood. Either way I feel like I'm not wired to have those nurturing, maternal instincts.

Plus I am totally freaked out and horrified by pregnancy and what it does to a woman's body. I think I almost have a phobia about it. I liked that episode of House when he called a fetus a parasite. That pretty much sums up how I feel about it.

Never want kids. I find the whole prospect repulsive and pointless, which apparently makes me an a***hole. That's not to say I inherently dislike children. On a case by case basis I can like them as much as adults, but I do tend to treat children the same way as I would an adult.

No. I never wanted kids and especially not to bear kids into this world. There are enough kids wanting a parent. I think, I made this decision at a rather young age, but I don´t know if it really is that idealistic, or just an expression for my not wanting to be tied up on a little needy being and not wanting sex and relationship and all, that goes with it.