Aspies in bording school

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when I was twleve, my father thought to put me in a bording school, but then changed his mind. I was horrified. To sleep in the same room with other kids and spend all day with them, and to learn a new set of rules, and there are many. Can you just walk out of the school grounds, or do you have to ask a grownup's permission first, let them know where you're going? Do you have to let them know if you're just going around the corner to buy something in the nearest hotdog stand, or only if you're going farther than that, and then how far is far enough? what is allowed, what isn't?

I couldn't imagine being in such a situation and wouldnt know what to do and how to get through it.

Do you think bording school is extremely hard for an aspie? anyone here been in a bording school, foster home, military, or any other environment that caused them to be around other people constantly? what was it like, and how did you deal with it?

I used to go to church camp as a kid for a week each summer and had no problems sleeping in a barracks-like situation.

One thing that I have always thought that looked interested is in some movies where the patients are in a ward with several patients. I'm not too sure I wouldn't like that more than a private room, depending on the other patients.

From a young age, I actually had an interest in boarding schools. I'd even considered attending one in high school. I didn't go to it, which was probably for the best. I had to live in the same room with my mom for maybe 8-9 months when we were living with family. The situation was pretty hostile, so my mom rarely left the room, meaning we were together for hours on end. It honestly left me emotionally drained. I realized that I definitely can't live in such close quarters with someone. I feel like I'm still recovering honestly, and I've had my own room again for nearly a year now.

...Well , I did about a month's time in a county jail (Santa Cruz , ÇA) in a " low-level/nonviolent offenders " cellblock with absolutely no privacy , dorm/barracks- style bunks & smaller beds I'm detailing it in a post in The Haven...

I've never done boarding school, but based on what I see from TV shows and movies, everybody is well-behaved with no outlying issues.. so I guess I can't form an opinion. I'd think it would be difficult for an aspie to thrive.

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..." Privàcy ” , not " Prius " … Ooper .

I think it all depends on what type of boarding school that you attend.

I attend a boarding school for deaf students and I enjoy it a lot there. The students and staff there are very welcoming, accepting, caring and friendly, and also very aware and understanding of disabilities other than deafness too. I feel very understood and accepted there, whereas I felt the complete opposite in state school. I now have a large group of close friends who understand my meltdowns, shutdowns, need to "recharge" and my behaviour. And because it's a special school, the classes are very small and there are about 250 students in total.

To answer your questions, I'm from the UK where the education system might be different. The boarding school that I attend has a primary school (from ages 5 to 11) and a secondary school with a sixth form (from ages 11-18). I have never attended the primary school (which is also a boarding school) so I cannot tell you about it. The students in the secondary school sleep in different houses according to their year groups. They have to obtain permission from care staff working in their houses if they want to go to another place (e.g. computer rooms) after school hours so that the care staff know where to find them if there are problems. Sixth form students have more privileges and so don't need the permission of care staff if they want to go somewhere after school hours.

The school is located in the countryside and there is a town nearby. There are school buses which the care staff drive to the town after school (if you've asked before registration) and at the weekends if you need to buy essentials, but you need to have your own money. We're not allowed to leave the school grounds without the permission of care staff or teachers. The school is surrounded by woods which are out of bounds because of logging and dangers.

When I first started at boarding school, my parents thought that I would have an extremely difficult time settling in and getting used to it, but I guess that if you're given the right amount of support and care from classmates, teachers and care staff, you get used to it quickly. I really love it here at my school and it's a wonderful place. Most of the students understand one another's needs and the teachers and care staff (some are deaf too) have good knowledge and understanding of different disabilities, not just deafness. I am around people constantly but there are places in the school that you can go to if you want some time to yourself during school hours. I have constant support from a wonderful teaching assistant who specialises in ASD and ADHD and runs a club for autistic students and a charity for autism too. Because of my anxiety and my tendencies to shut down or meltdown, I have care staff check on me once an hour after school hours.

I could go on about what a fantastic school it is but I've written a lot already. In my experiences, once you get used to boarding school, it becomes home away from home and your friends are like your family.

I did about 6 months at a boarding school and they pretty much choose the dorm you stayed in, and the people you got to room with. Luckily for me, they make a very good choice. I got a 2 person dorm and the other person was a social outcast like me. but I think I got that because I requested a quiet area. NTL: I was very happy with the dorm choice and became close friends with my room mate. As far as the rest of it goes. It was just as bad as public school.

I never went to boarding school--but I went to sleepaway camp, which is, in some senses, similar to going to boarding school.

I enjoyed being away from my family, frankly, even though I was abused constantly by the other kids (especially early on). Even counselors, at times, abused me. I once had to hold 2 ten-pound rocks with my arms out--talk about torture! I don't even remember what I did wrong!

I didn't like having to go on "overnights" (where I would sleep in a sleeping bag, rather than a bed in a bunk) until I was 11.

I used to enjoy our trips (to bowling alleys, amusement parks).

I liked it when I got home to "civilization," even though I had to be with my family again.

I used to suck at sports--but enjoyed playing, anyway.

I never went to a boarding school. I am glad I didn't. I've been to a summer camp a few times before and I self-harmed several times while there. I was bullied in summer camp. And the smoker's area was next to a propane tank, talk about stupid organisers (I don't smoke but I observed it). Once I ran away after having self harmed. I was found with blood on myself by the police, who then took me to hospital. I had a major shut down and couldn't even use gestures to communicate in the A&E department at the hospital. My parents had to drive for three hours to get there. Eventually I was taken home. My dad was sympathetic but the next day at home when my dad went to work, my mum punched me and kicked me and then tried to push me down the stairs, saying "you are a stupid attention-seeking little sh*t!!" and then threatened to deform me for life. I locked myself in my bedroom and she then said she would not talk to me again. When she was sober (she used to be a chronic alcoholic when I was a child / teenager) she was very quiet.

So I don't think that boarding school would have worked. And anyway my mum used to love controlling me, and as I'm an only child, her need for controlling me would have prevented me from being allowed to go to one.

I don't do social. Summer camp is social.
I don't cope with physical contact. Lashed out at the leaders several times.
I do need a lot of time alone. Summer camp doesn't allow that.

...I had a pretty horrid summer camp month when I was 12 .

I did go to boarding school when I was 11 years old. Did quite well: came out first in the school tests. But it was HELL!

I got beat up by a teacher: a 36 year old man using his fists to beat up an eleven year old kid. A few years ago all the abuse became big news, but the order and the researchers never paid attention to the people that got 'only' beaten up ... sexual assault was the main (and only) crime.

A few years ago I met a classmate again. We found out that we both had autism: me Asperger, him PDD-NOS. He had been victim of sexual abuse ... but his story raised a lot of questions ... so many things became clear!
- The guy sleeping next to me having so much money ... seems he lured others in to get in touch with an old geezer (the abuser).
- The monk who was medic and commanded the telephone: he kept pinching my butt ... didn't see any harm in that, but it turns out he was one of the worst abusers ... he got send off before he really got his hands on me.
- A classmate got hit in the head with a wooden cube ... I can still see the empty look when he got hit (it was meant for somebody else) ... that classmate never really recovered: brain damage? We didn't notice back then, but he ended up in an asylum. On a weekend off he committed suicide ... I'm still appalled by it ...

It was the same school Joseph Goebbels attended ...