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DevilKisses
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21 Dec 2014, 5:13 pm

My name sounds nice, but I feel uncomfortable with it. When people ask for my name it makes me very uncomfortable. I often have trouble saying my name and people ask me to repeat myself. I hate when that happens.

I understand why people would ask my name in real life. I don't really understand why people online ask for my name. I already have a username, why can't they use that? They claim they want to get to know me. What the hell does my name have to do with who I am?

I also have one of those names that people love to say. I hate that. People often use my name like punctuation.


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21 Dec 2014, 5:17 pm

DevilKisses wrote:
My name sounds nice, but I feel uncomfortable with it. When people ask for my name it makes me very uncomfortable. I often have trouble saying my name and people ask me to repeat myself. I hate when that happens.

I understand why people would ask my name in real life. I don't really understand why people online ask for my name. I already have a username, why can't they use that? They claim they want to get to know me. What the hell does my name have to do with who I am?

I also have one of those names that people love to say. I hate that. People often use my name like punctuation.


Well usernames aren't very personal if you know what I mean. If they want to get to know you, I assume they want to be friends, and you'd call your friend by their real name and not a username, right?

I don't think I can relate to you. Sometimes hearing my name can sound weird, especially if it's coming from someone who doesn't say it often (like if it's someone who calls me by a nickname or something). I'm actually named after a flower so I often get told how it's such a pretty name.


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21 Dec 2014, 5:51 pm

yes that is why I usually go by my initials and saves trouble-I was teased viciously over my name when I was in school
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21 Dec 2014, 6:48 pm

Jezebel wrote:
DevilKisses wrote:
My name sounds nice, but I feel uncomfortable with it. When people ask for my name it makes me very uncomfortable. I often have trouble saying my name and people ask me to repeat myself. I hate when that happens.

I understand why people would ask my name in real life. I don't really understand why people online ask for my name. I already have a username, why can't they use that? They claim they want to get to know me. What the hell does my name have to do with who I am?

I also have one of those names that people love to say. I hate that. People often use my name like punctuation.


Well usernames aren't very personal if you know what I mean. If they want to get to know you, I assume they want to be friends, and you'd call your friend by their real name and not a username, right?

I don't think I can relate to you. Sometimes hearing my name can sound weird, especially if it's coming from someone who doesn't say it often (like if it's someone who calls me by a nickname or something). I'm actually named after a flower so I often get told how it's such a pretty name.

That's why I like having a username. I think my first name is too personal. Maybe I should just make up a fake first name that I use.


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21 Dec 2014, 6:53 pm

Yeah. I always felt I was a Skye, Phoenix, something a little less common than Christopher. The stage names I come up with compensate for having a better name.


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21 Dec 2014, 7:07 pm

It's not specifically my name I am uncomfortable about. It is anything that draws attention to me. Someone calling my name, even a family member, makes me uncomfortable. I don't even like to hear my name. I was with my sisters today and they were talking about my current "mood" and they kept saying my name. I told them I really do not like people saying my name. People in my apartment, where I have lived for 17 months, do not even know my first name, and I do not correct them when they address me by the name they think is me. I am very uncomfortable about going to Christmas, specifically because it is a time where people will be saying my name and staring at me as I open whatever they give me.



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21 Dec 2014, 7:40 pm

I do not like introducing myself, nor do I like my name being called by someone else even if they are being nice. I do not like my name at all. My mother used to call me by my brother's name sometimes or change my middle name when she would call me by my first and middle name. Felt awful, like, since she named me, please make an effort to get it right. I wonder if, this late in my life, I should change my name. I don't think it would matter to anyone.



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21 Dec 2014, 7:56 pm

when i was little i used to relate my name with mischief. I wasnt a well behave kid.



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21 Dec 2014, 8:39 pm

Yesssssss.

I can't stand saying my own name, and it usually bothers me when other people use it, especially in an argument. It's so personal it feels like an attack. I guess I've tried to dissociate from my own name. I feel better when I'm called 'Historia'.



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21 Dec 2014, 9:44 pm

I didn't know other people have this problem. Do you think it's an Aspie thing?

Well, it's not so much that my name itself makes me feel uncomfortable as the fact that it is not spelled in the usual way most people spell it, and as a result I have had to correct other people's spelling for what feels like a million years whenever they ask my name and then write it down.

If I use my true first name online and then see it with other people's usernames it just looks so boring and unimaginative. I'm not even sure it's safe to do that at all, but sometimes I get sick of trying to think up a good username, especially when they tell me it's already been used.

It still does feel kind of weird to say my real name or here others say it. It reminds me that I actually am a real human who exists. For some reason I just don't like that. Of course there are a lot worse names I could be called.



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21 Dec 2014, 11:33 pm

I'm not too fond of my first name, middle name or second name.

My first name feels generic in an English way, and it rhymes with too many other words. It could spell trouble if my hearing ever deteriorated.

My middle name is dorky, but you're allowed to deny middle names so I guess I can live with it.

My surname is also doubles as a female first name. This would make things confusing if I ever published an academic paper, and someone quoted me from that paper. Readers might think that I'm a woman, which would be funny the first time and annoying every time after that.

Still, my name has advantages. The people I deal with are unlikely to spell it wrong, and potential employers are not going to discriminate against me for having a non-European name. My first name name is also unambiguously male, so I don't need to worry about unconscious sexism either from anyone I need to write letters to.



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22 Dec 2014, 12:02 am

I was uncomfortable with it when I was a kid because my name is a little unusual. I told some of the other children in my class to call me by the name of a children's show character I had a crush on.

As a young adult, I got tired of people telling me how beautiful or nice of a name it was. I still don't like that much, but it's not as big of a deal.

I don't like saying my name, either, but that's partially related to my troubles with talking. People hear another, more common name that rhymes with mine, then I have to repeat myself more loudly, which is a pain because I have trouble modulating the volume of my voice and I'm afraid that I end up almost yelling at them.



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22 Dec 2014, 12:08 am

My given name I'm okay with

My middle name I'm kind of neutral on

My surname is uncomfortable for me



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22 Dec 2014, 12:51 am

I used to hate my name because it was long and hard to pronounce and a little weird- now I like it because I think it sums up my identification and I like it when some calls me using it with my second or last names lol.



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22 Dec 2014, 1:00 am

Growing up it was drilled into my head to protect my personal info online and that includes my real name. Someone asking for it would make me uncomfortable. In my mind real names aren't meant for the internet with dating sites being the only exception.

To answer the topic question I can't really be uncomfortable with my name seeing as how I picked it myself.



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22 Dec 2014, 1:11 am

I love my name, and so does everyone else it seems. Funny thing is I always had trouble saying Ezra. But my family calls me by my middle name Shea, which I also like a lot and have no trouble saying. I like my last name a lot too. But that one is hard for me to say too. But it's cool. It ends with aux.